This is the 2nd, 3rd, or even 10th date. You ticked all the boxes, the communication flows, and the chemistry is spot on.

She likes you. At least you are here with her, breaking bread and having a good time. That counts for something, RIGHT?

It does.

The first few days were cool. It’s like, “Yeah! She’s the one.” You even imagine a life with her. You filled in the blanks for the two of you. The grey areas you make excuses for.

And then things start fizzling out. She’s suddenly super busy and responds to your messages late. Sometimes you call 3–4 times, and there’s no answer. When she picks up, it’s either that she’s too busy or she was sleeping. It continues until you stop trying and move on to the next.

 It’s a cycle all over again. Just like that—your time and emotions, wasted.

Now, you’re asking yourself what you’re doing wrong.

Everything! You’re doing everything wrong.

But don’t fret. I’ll show you 6 secrets that will change your story.

These secrets are the real deal.  When you know them, you will get any woman you want, and I mean ANY woman, without breaking a sweat. She will drool over you, love you, and beg you to have her.

When you know these secrets and act according to their lessons, you will be so powerful that you will become the prize.

These are the secrets to unlocking the love and passion taps of women.

They are only known in the underground circles of professional pickup artists and Casanovas. They’re so powerful that even knowing just one has already placed you above 90% of the men out there.

But here’s the thing—if you’re not a patient man (I mean patient by a stretch of 2–4 weeks), these secrets aren’t for you. To work these secrets in your relationship, you’ve to learn the virtue of patience.

Now to the matter.

What will you do if you meet a girl who smiles at you, stops to talk, and gives you her attention, and at the end, you manage to get her number?

You’ll text her later that day to reintroduce yourself. You will say something like:

“Hello Christy, this is Ben. The guy from the mall. I just wanted to say hi. Hope you’re good. I bet you’re home now. This is my number… bla! bla!! bla!!!”

OMG. I almost swallowed my tongue listening to you. That’s pathetic if any man ever did that.

Don’t do that, and don’t do many things typical guys do. You need to be unique to get women out of their shells. They are used to so many things men say. So, forget everything you know about getting a lady to love you.

Here’s what you do from now on:

1) Don’t try too hard

Nothing repels women like a desperate man. Beyond the social cringe, it shows weakness, neediness, and lack of options. The thing is, evolution has primed women to want men that other women desire. Trying too hard contradicts this basic instinct.

 A desperate man screams a lack of options. That destroys your social proof. When you try too hard to get a girl, she automatically thinks you don’t have stuff going on for you, and no other woman is lapping up your attention.

And if others don’t want you, she doesn’t need you either.

Tip: Always wait a day or two before texting a girl you just met. And when you do, keep it brief. Tell her you’ve got something to handle, that you just wanted to say hi, and that you will reach out later. Be vague about the time and about that thing.

2) Don’t always be available

Easy access cheapens you. When you make yourself available all the time, she’ll get used to it and take it for granted.

Be the master of your time. When she calls, don’t always pick up immediately. When she texts, take your time to respond—and when you do, keep it simple, warm, and direct.

Emphasis on warm. Don’t just be simple and direct and come across as an asshole. Douse your words with warmth, and she will cherish you for it. In her mind you are not another asshole, but a very busy man, a top-tier value man. That’s so SEXY!

What you’re doing here is working on her psyche. She starts wondering about you, thinking… analyzing.

That’s where the magic happens. The more she thinks about you, the more she gets hooked. Tension builds. And guess what?

Attention thrives on tension. When there’s tension, every bit of attention is treasured.

3) Don’t be predictable

Following up from the last point—learn to surprise her. Just because you’re not always available doesn’t mean you should ghost her. It means you engage her on your own terms.

Here’s the trick. She starts wondering why you’re so unavailable. She questions herself—did she mess up? Or maybe you’ve got a lineup of beautiful women that makes her less valuable?

Then boom! You show up with a grand gesture. Something unexpected—but thoughtful. She can’t believe it.

She can’t figure you out—and that puzzles and excites her at the same time. She’s constantly thinking, What’s next? What’s he going to do now? Am I even safe with this guy? Does he want me?

Now she’s getting desperate. She wants to know what’s really up with you. She wants to beat other women to the prize—you.

Tip: Learn what she likes. Is she into sci-fi movies? Arrange a cinema date with a movie she’d love. Call her out of the blue and say, “Get dressed. I’m coming to pick you up.”

Of course—know her schedule too.

4) Leave a mark

Attraction fades when it’s built on shallow things like looks, jokes, or money.

Create emotional experiences that are powerful and personal—things no one else can easily replicate. Secret number 3 above gets you halfway there.

Tip: Find what’s important to her—career, family, dreams. Use that to connect to her on a deeper level.

5) Make her invest in you

And NO! This isn’t about begging her to pick up your bill. Don’t do that. Never do that.

I’m talking about getting her to invest emotionally, mentally, and physically—even in small ways.

Here’s the law: People value what they invest in.

So, make her contribute. That’ll lead to her constantly thinking about you.

Tip: Ask for her opinion now and then. Tell her to grab something for you on her way over—something small. What matters is the perception of contribution.

6) Be mysterious

Humans crave mystery. It excites our curiosity. And in relationships, that means she’ll think about you more. You’re etched into her mind—she’s always trying to figure you out.

And the more she tries, the deeper in love she falls.

So be mysterious in a secure way. If she asks you something about yourself, maybe your family. Be vague with your answers. Give true, direct, and straightforward answers. Don’t elaborate.

There you have it, the 6 secrets to make any woman love you. Does it look simple? Yes! To a layman.

To someone who doesn’t understand the power of attraction. But we are not done yet. To the layman, there is more, and this takes everything over the top for you.

What I’ve just given you are the great secrets of top pickup artists. The ones actively used by Neil Strauss, the greatest pickup artist of our time, and author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.

He’s so notoriously good that Orlando Bloom once begged to pick his brain at the Met Gala. The guy is dubbed the Godfather of Pickup Artists.

His book, The Rules of the Game, taught me a lot about winning over any woman. And it changed my dating game.

Go to a bar with me, point out any lady, and I will pick her up in 10 minutes. All thanks to Neil Strauss and other gurus who have been magnanimous enough to write down their experiences for people like us.

If you want to change your dating game and be among the top 1% alpha males, the top-tier men. Money is not what you need. And look doesn’t matter too. What you need are these powerful books that helped me move from a 34-year-old shy virgin to the biggest chick magnet in just 4 months.

Other must-read books that’ll change the game for you:

📘 How to Pick Up Girls! by Eric Weber

📘 The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed by Mystery (Erik von Markovik)

📘 Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson

📘 The Message Game: A Guide to Dating at the Touch of a Button by Ice White